The Sign of Danger in Relationships

Love is the most beautiful thing in the world. We are made out of love. And all of us want to experience great love in our lives. In a relationship, two people are involved. And not just people but two different people. So, the danger of breaking up is always a possible reality. But before it could happen there are signs that can help us prevent this thing from happening. In my own experience, I have already gone through a relationship. Those were the times I was not yet aware of the signs of danger in relationship. Now, I have come to realize the importance of these signs because it may correct and address problems. The increased negative feelings, criticism, defensiveness, contempt, invalidation and withdrawal are the signs of danger which may lead to couple’s separation. These signs are very common to almost all couples if not all. These are usually the stages we experience and even see to other couples. I realize that these are all about selfishness. We only think about how we feel, and always think that we are right. We do not try to understand our partner’s feelings because we are overwhelmed of our own selfish feelings. We become self-centered people. We pity ourselves. We no more fight for the love we used to have because of selfish reasons. Though these feelings are hard to beat, still we can now be aware before it comes to a point of giving up the relationship. I believe all break ups hurt no matter how it ended. Therefore, it is important to take care of a worthy relationship. When any of these characteristics or signs begins to appear, it is time to do something. It is better to do something early than waste your time to a relationship that is going nowhere.